Love is confusing. It’s amazing and yet challenging. There are many ups and downs, moments filled with joy, romantic gestures, and arguments once in a while.
It seems that true love is hard to find these days, and it is even harder to keep. Sometimes you think you have found your soulmate, but it turns out it was a waste of time. Modern society accepts distorted values in life, focuses on physical appearances and material things, while real love and happiness are set aside. Couples are under tremendous pressure to keep the balance between love, passion, and attractiveness. А huge challenge is finding your perfect match and building a relationship filled with real and lasting love.
Now, when you are together, you cannot get enough of each other, you have an overwhelming attachment to him, you are on the same page about the ‘big questions,’ and you feel butterflies when you think about him. But is it true love? Or maybe lust or infatuation?
To understand what real and lasting love is, you need to reshape the generally accepted definitions of love. True love is not about setting expectations or traps. It is not a race; there is no finish line, no pressure, and true love is not a perceived societal goal. You don’t have to pretend. No makeup, no fillers. True love is being who you are and accepting your significant other just the way they are.
I would say that true love is something way above the most intense feeling of deep affection for someone.
If you feel insecure whether your partner cares about you, the following signs will help you distinguish if your partner really loves you:
True love comes naturally.
Love should never be forced. Love is a feeling, and you cannot force yourself or anyone else to love. Regardless of whether you are in a long-term relationship or just started dating, if you have too many questions about your partner and your relationship, your feelings are not real. True love comes naturally and without questions ‘what if’ and ‘should I.’ It just feels right. You cannot force love, especially not true love.
Loving someone is not the same thing as wanting to be with someone and loving the idea to be in a relationship with that person. In fact, being with someone just because you feel lonely will result in sadness and disappointment. True love is not something that you cannot push to work out.
When you truly love someone, you want to do nice things for that person. When you are at the sports store and see tracksuits that would perfectly fit him, you instantly want to buy them and make him smile. Or, when he sees a watch that she would like, he decides to buy it. It is not always about something expensive. Relaxing massage or morning coffee in the bed costs nothing but the gesture says you love your partner. You buy and do nice things when you truly love someone without expecting your significant other to return the favor. True love is an entirely selfless place.
Your Partner Makes You Want to Be a Better Person.
Investing in ourselves is the best thing we can do, and we constantly should try to be the best ourselves. While this is entirely true, it is interesting that when we find our perfect match and fall in love, that person inspires us to become even better. I am not talking about some kind of perfection, but true love makes us feel better and motivates us to improve.
Your partner should be your motivation, not your competition. Constant improvement is great. For example, if your partner has higher education, a better job position, and a higher salary, eventually, you will focus on improving and start working on getting to the same level. Whether we are talking about work, enhancing your lifestyle, exercising and eating healthier food, or volunteering, changes are remarkable.
However, inspiring and demanding someone is not the same thing. If we talk about true love, your partner will make you want to become a better person; they will not ask you to change. The whole point is to accept your partner and grow to love each other as you are. Don’t set impossible standards and be with your partner with zero expectations. True love is unconditional and without limitations. When someone’s love is true, there is no room for self-motivated interests.
True Love Is Giving.
Real love has its reputation for transforming people in significant ways. True love means having patience and requires reciprocity. When you truly love someone, you want to see that person happy, and you would agree to do anything to make that person feel your love for them. Loving someone means giving your time, attention, and affection. And what is most important, anything you do comes from within without any cynicism.
If you feel the need to hold back your feelings, your partner is not the right person for you. True love is constant giving and supporting without conditions. It is not acceptable to tell your partner you love them only when they do something good. It is not fair to treat your partner coldly if they make a mistake. The more love you give your partner, the more you’ll get it‒and more!‒in return.
Empathy as a rule.
When you truly love someone, your feelings don’t stop when that person disappoints you. We are all human beings, and we make mistakes, and empathy is one of the most important things for every relationship. When you are in a romantic relationship with the right person, you know that they are always in your corner, no matter what. Loving someone means having compassion for that person and trying to see things from their point of view.
You Want to Be There for Your Partner in Good Times and Bad.
Unconditional love means supporting your partner no matter what. When things are good, and everything is smooth, there is no challenge. But, what when life hits? Sometimes bad things happen, and you won’t run away at the first hurdle if you genuinely love someone.
Loving your partner means being there for them in good times and bad. Being strong for your loved ones and helping them deal with stressful or traumatic situations is the best way to show your love.
You’re Confident in Your Relationship.
People who feel lust or infatuation for their partners often are insecure about the future of their relationship. Every argument rocks the boat and makes them feel nervous. However, people who are truly connected with their partners know that an argument won’t change anything. Their love is true, their commitment is real, and they believe their partner.
True love allows you to be yourself.
When you truly love someone, you accept all good and bad things. We all have flaws, and true love means accepting all imperfections of your partner. When you truly love someone, you accept and value everything about that person: opinions, tastes, and preferences. Loving someone means encouraging them to express their opinion and show their emotions. At the beginning of the relationship, it might be easy to hide some things and want to shine the best light possible, but sooner or later, your partner will see you sleepy and with messy hair. Over time relationships evolve, and that is progress. Accepting your partner’s personality is probably one of the most obvious signs you truly love them. When you love your genuinely, you don’t feel the need to hide things from that person. In fact, sharing things with your partner makes you feel released.
Looking toward the future.
One of the signs of true love is making plans for the future together. Whether it is talking about a trip to an exotic destination or looking for an apartment to move in together, it means your love is sincere, and your partner has serious plans for you. Making plans about important things means your relationship is more than just having fun, and you are truly connected on a lasting level. If your partner wants you to share all precious moments with you, don’t doubt their love.
Many of you fantasize about a proposal and a big wedding, which is great because everyone wants to swear eternal love with their soulmate. Having big plans means you feel that person is the right one.
Your Partner Can’t Get Enough Of You.
When you love someone, you don’t want to be apart. You miss that person every minute while you are not together. You appreciate every moment spent with that person. ‘When will we see each other again?’ is probably the sweetest question ever. Knowing that your partner enjoys your company and doesn’t want to spend the night alone means that person really values and craves your company.
You can be sure that your partner loves you if they make an effort to spend time together even when they are tired or have a long list of duties.
In addition to this, it is important to mention that physical attraction plays a huge role in an intimate relationship. Having sex with someone is a compelling way of connecting with another person. If your partner enjoys kissing, showing affection, and any other kind of physical touch and has a hard time keeping their hand off of you, it means the connection is real. Being close to the person you truly love includes all sorts of possibilities to feel as close as possible.
True Love Is Different For Everyone.
It takes time to get to know your partner. Relations evolve, and building trust is a process that never stops. Time will show whether your partner is your perfect match and your soulmate. Having doubts about your relationship is entirely normal, but don’t be too cautious. Enjoy your relationship and let things follow their natural flow. Don’t make promises if you are not sure. Invest in your relationship if you deeply care about your partner and feel that they appreciate you the same way as you do. True love is about making an effort for the person you love.
Last but not least, keep in mind that true love is different for everyone. There is no universal definition, and there aren’t any rules to follow. We all are different, and every relationship is wonderful in its specific way.
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