It’s pretty well known that a lot of women seem to be attracted to married men. So much so, that some single men will go as far as to wear a ring on their finger just to pick up women more easily.
While we all know that it’s wrong, it seems that not that many people know why women are so drawn to men who are unavailable.
Many of these reasons are psychological, some are biological and evolutionary, but none of them are what you would normally expect.
#1 – Married Men Are “Pre-Approved”
A man who’s already claimed by someone else gives off the impression that he must be better than men who are still available.
It’s basic human nature – we’re more comfortable with people and things that are already proven, rather than something or someone that is unknown.
Women are biologically more attracted to a man who has been “endorsed”, than they are to a single man who seems to be “unwanted” or uncommitted.
This attraction increases significantly when the married man has an attractive wife.
Subconsciously, that says to a woman, “If this attractive woman with options finds him worthy of marriage, he must be extremely desirable!”
#2 – Married Men Are More Stable and Secure
This is one of the most obvious ones – people who are wealthier tend to be more attractive to women. One study showed that men who were married earned 10-20% more than bachelors, even if they had similar qualifications and work experience.
When a woman notices that a man is married, she subconsciously gets a sense of security. They have clearly “made it” in life and are successful enough to afford a family.
If a married man is financially stable, has a good work ethic, and pays his bills on time, the chances of him being unfaithful are greatly reduced. He’s more likely to be reliable in general, have more integrity, and have a better level of respect for his woman — all things that are highly attractive to most women.
#3 – Insecurity
Some women subconsciously feel that they do not have what it takes to be someone that a good man would want to commit to, so they go out seeking men who are already committed to someone.
If you have low self-esteem, the idea of being with someone who already has a significant other might seem more attainable and less intimidating. To them, it is easier to lure this man with sex and eventually take him from his wife, rather than going for a single man and doing the “work” to make sure he is the committed type.
Insecure, single women often seek out married men as a way to boost their own ego. They find pleasure in knowing that they were able to “steal” someone away from another woman, especially if the wife is attractive.
It’s like they want to prove that even though they aren’t married or in a committed relationship, they are still desirable enough to land that specific man.
#4 – Abandonment Issues in Childhood
Abandonment issues happen when a parent does not provide the child with consistent warm and affectionate interactions, leaving them feeling chronic stress.
This can look like a parent who is completely out of the picture, a parent that is abusive in some way, or a parent that displays favoritism toward their other children.
The experiences that happen during childhood continue into adulthood, as these feelings of fear become internalized beliefs. The child feels unloveable, while still craving that missing affection.
In these cases, a woman is more likely to feel insecure and may seek out the affection from males by any means necessary, to fill that void.
They will unknowingly attract to them men who are unavailable, because they are subconsciously still looking for that feeling of being wanted by their parent who was “unavailable” to them.
They will repeat this cycle of trying to win over the affection of their parent through these married men.
#5 – Sex With No Strings Attached
A lot of women in this category have commitment phobia, meaning that they are afraid of deep emotional connections with men. To them, being in a relationship is the equivalent to being trapped and they need to constantly feel “free.”
In many cases, these women have had bad experiences in childhood, leaving them feeling like love was not safe or reliable.
For them, it is easier to have an affair with a married man than to be in a committed relationship where love and intimacy are involved.
They ultimately seek out these married men as a way to satiate that emotional need for validation.
For some, they find a thrill in having a man that is unavailable and that could potentially get them into trouble if things go sour or their wife finds out.
