For many people, being single means walking alone in the park and drinking wine while having a tasty dinner. That is so wrong! Being single is not a status; instead, it is a choice and proof that you are strong and intelligent enough to enjoy your own company and do things couples cannot. Doesn’t that sound amazing?
When are in a relationship, people try to push the concept that if you don’t have a partner, you are not complete, and you must feel lonely.
Actually, it is quite the opposite: when people are single, they have all the freedom and can do whatever they want: improve their skills and get a promotion, party all night long, travel to an exotic destination, meet new people and try new flavors from the local kitchen.
It seems that there are two types of people: those who enjoy being single and those who don’t. If you are the second type and constantly try to find your significant other, you definitely should read this blog post. I will try to convince you how being single can be a blessing if you focus on the positive aspects.
If you are wondering if it is possible to be happy and single after a breakup or if you are trying to find a partner, but the right person is hidden somewhere, the answer is YES. This could be quite challenging if your family and friends constantly ask questions and put pressure on you, but once you realize how easy it is to live a single life, you may never look back, ever again.
If You Can’t Be Happy Single, You Can’t Be Happy in a Relationship
Happiness is a state that your relationship status should not define. If you are single and constantly seek for a partner to make you happy, at a particular moment, you will do things you usually wouldn’t. You don’t need other people to feel fulfilled, content, and to feel satisfied because if your happiness depends on something outside you, it means you have no control.
Over time, this situation will bring enormous consequences, and no matter what you do, you will end unhappy and dissatisfied. If you are focused only on finding a partner, it is highly likely to make a poor decision and choose someone who is not the right fit for you.
Instead, enjoy your single life, take advantage of your freedom and prepare yourself for the next relationship.
The first step you need to do is to change your mentality and expectations because you need to create a happy life as a single person. Your future depends on your thoughts. Whether you think positively or negatively about being single, you can be either: happy or sad. Instead of considering that being alone is disempowering and you feel misery about that, shift your thinking. It might be helpful to start reading about successful people who are single, read their stories and take their happiness as a role model.
Being single is a chance to figure out what you want out of life.
Single people have plenty of free time. So, instead of being burdened with negative thoughts, use your free time to figure out what is your personal “mission statement.” You may feel lost, but try to redirect your thoughts and figure out what you want to do with your life. Sometimes, being in a relationship impedes people, and they follow their partner. When you are single, you can take your time and think about career changes, new attitudes or new hobbies. Seek for changes, and you may find something about yourself you were not aware of.
Single people have time to be themselves with themselves. Sounds confusing, right? Try to reconnect with yourself, ask yourself questions that bother you, make a list with pros and cons and consider all answers
If you don’t let go of the past, you will never appreciate the present.
Most people find it hard to go on after a breakup. It is normal to feel sad, but memories of your ex should be only memories. Cherish the moments you had while you were in a relationship but embrace the change and start a new life of a single person. Stay open to new adventures as a single person and give yourself time to realize what you were missing.
Don’t forget that changes are not necessarily bad. In fact, after the period of adaption, there will be plenty of possibilities, and it is up to you to embrace changes that will make you happy.
Take Advantage Of Your Freedom and be spontaneous
It is an indisputable fact that relationships work only if both partners make compromises. On the other hand, being single means no negotiation at all. No matter if you want to buy the expensive dress or plan a trip and leave in two days, you don’t have a partner to consult with, so you can make any choice without potential discussion.
Complete freedom is one of the most positive benefits of being a single person. You can do whatever you want or need. There is no need to explain your choices to anyone, and there is no risk of being marked as selfish.
Another positive aspect is setting your limits on your own. Let your imagination lead you and define the way you want to anything. Now, when there is no partner to consult with, you can make questionable decisions and enjoy them.
Have A Career Change
It is not uncommon for people in a relationship to keep the same job because of its security. Sometimes, the partner discourages or even restricts them from asking for a promotion or change their career. It is more complicated because you have to consult your partner and take into consideration all aspects.
Being single means you can pursue your happiness and make the change you dream about. Be brave and ask for the promotion you deserve. If your job doesn’t make you feel fulfilled, quit and look for a new job. Are you creative? Do you dream about small business? Use your talent and start from scratch, and experiment. Even if you fail, no one will blame you. Single persons avoid resentment. Having no partner means you can reach for your full potential without the pressure of failing.
Learn About Yourself and Find Your “Thing”
There are plenty of reasons you should enjoy being single, and personal development is just one of them. Have you ever considered visiting a psychologist? A specialist in this medical field will help you go through therapy and find a way to understand all things that bother you. Talk with a specialist will help you heal old wounds and direct you to create a new pattern of behavior. Once you set your goals, it would be much easier to lead a fun life.
If you are not up to visiting a doctor and second person’s involvement, you can make changes independently. Any sport, such as running, hiking, yoga, pilates, or fitness, is a great way to enjoy life and have quality time. Personal development means finding a thing that makes you happy as an individual.
Let’s not forget that relationship is not the only way to live a joyful life. Being single offers much more opportunities, and it is on you to use that. In fact, being single is a great time to experiment and try something new. Learning a new skill is a great way to fill the day, and you could never know when that will be profitable.
You don’t have to push yourself. The possibilities are endless: Travel. Read. Take up a new hobby. Go out and party. Stay home and sleep. Having complete freedom is a rewarding experience. Try it, and I guarantee that you will be amazed.
You’re not alone when you’re single; you still have family and good friends!
Being single sounds depressing, but this is the perfect time to give back to others. If you feel that you dedicated all your time to your partner, now when you are single, you can spend time with those who matter most: family and friends. You must admit that family and friends are those who stay around you for much longer than partners. Don’t make a mistake and avoid everyone. Some day you may regret not spending enough quality time with the ones you love most.
Another option is volunteering. Many people need real help. Sometimes all they need is talk and support, and you will benefit as well: volunteer work will make you feel useful and certainly will increase your self-confidence.
Being single does not have to mean being afraid to love.
Experience from a past relationship is an excellent way to summarize positive and negative aspects, which will benefit your future relationships. Reflect on a past relationship and prepare yourself to meet a new person. First of all, think about the reason for your break up and try not to make the same mistake again. There is no need to rush to a new relationship; coffee or dinner is a great way to start.
Let your heart heal and open it to love again. Put yourself in the first place and make sure your new partner respects all your decisions.
Cherish and appreciate all good things in your life. Being single is not the end of the world. Positive thinking about your life is crucial. Get out of bed, put on your favorite clothes and breathe. Enjoy the sun, your coffee, do your best at work. You can meet your soulmate right at the corner.
Changes come from inside: if you are open to new things, something better will come your way. There is always a sun after the storm.
