It’s true. If you have social media, best believe a picture or two of yours has been screenshot and shared in some group chat. Maybe you’ve even been guilty of doing this yourself. We’ve all gossiped at some point, so it’s pretty safe to assume that we too, are being judged by others, and quite often.
Imagine having to choose between these 2 Options:
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Red Pill: YOU GET TO KNOW THE HONEST TRUTH ABOUT WHAT EVERY SINGLE PERSON HAS EVER THOUGHT ABOUT YOU.
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Blue Pill: YOU GET YOUR MEMORY WIPED OF EVERYONE’S OPINIONS OF YOU
Well, let’s think about this. Let’s say you chose the red pill; What would some pros and cons be?
You could possibly use this information as a tool to help you see the areas that you need improvement in, as well as what everyone loves about you.
You would also be able to tell who your true friends are by the harsh judgments vs the good ones.
But would you really?
I have a feeling that if you filtered out all of the bad ones, you would have nobody left as a friend.. or even a family member. Not a spouse, or kids if you had any.
That’s right:, EVERYBODY HAS HAD NEGATIVE OPINIONS OF YOU.
That’s just what we do as humans. We judge and analyze literally every single thing we see —whether it’s good or bad.
Think about all of the opinions your mind conjures up with ease as you scroll through social media. Platforms are literally meant for you to feed off of others “liking” you.
If people knew every single opinion that you have ever had about them… YIKES! You would probably seem like a horrible person too.
But your own opinions of other people don’t really mean anything, not even to yourself. See, our thoughts of other people really say more about us than anything. It’s an indicator of how what we have inside. Every thought you have of a person (negatively or positively) is a direct reflection of you.
Knowing that, do you see now why other people’s opinions of you are so weightless?
How many times have we held ourselves back from something because we were afraid of what someone else would think?
If I cared about what every single person thought about me, I would be living with Patrick under a rock, never to be seen or heard from again.
A lot of times as a teenager [on MySpace] I was constantly bullied by trolls online. Everything from “you’re ugly” to “I hope you die.”
I used to let it get to me, even cry sometimes. No matter how many positive comments there were, I only believed the negative ones. I wish I knew then what I know now. That these people were deeply hurt inside, and that people can only give out what they have inside of them.
If they have a lot of negativity in their internal inventory, then that’s all they can give out.
I would much rather take the blue pill and erase all memory of what others think about me, but honestly… we don’t need a pill.
We have a place within us that is separate from our ego (the part of us that cares what others think). The ego is a false self, a façade. It is our self-image, our social mask, the role we are playing—and it thrives on approval! The need for approval is driven by self-criticism and negative self-talk which are fear-based.
We’ve been disapproving of ourselves our entire lives without much success. Why not start approving of ourselves and see how that works out?
Self-approval comes out of self-acceptance, which rises out of the recognition that we are, in fact, enough, just as we are. With that recognition, we can free ourselves from fear; we no longer need to look outside for a validation that on the inside is self-evident. We come into our power and recognize that our essential nature is all we need to be fully us.
Are you going to let weightless opinions hold you back from doing what makes your heart happy? Or are you going to listen to that place inside of you that knows your capabilities, full potential, and real passions? Your internal “Blue Pill”.
